Buff, I can understand why you need to keep Android around. Thankfully I have some flexibility on my end. I have never been an Apple fan, but I must admit that there are things about iOS that I like. What I don't like it that it's a very closed system with limited customization options.
I've mentioned this already, but to wrap it up in one place:
In the USA it is next to impossible to find a decent Android phone that does not have a screen larger than 6". I am so tired of carrying around my massive Galaxy Note 9, and Samsung has only made things worse. Google's Pixel line seems to be the only option, but reality is that their phones leave much to be desired. The only thing they seem to get right is the camera, which doesn't mean much to me.
There is no consistency in Android with manufacturers, even within the same manufacturer across their product line, and most manufacturers butcher stock Android with their own software. For example, almost every manufacturer has their own idea of how a dialer should work, as well as messaging. Nevermind that stock Android already has both.
Everything else on an Android phone, such as the home screen, camera software, etc., is ridiculously all over the place. Future OS updates? All over the place, and not likely in the consumer's favor. Support from the manufacturer? Don't expect much, and don't hold your breath. Security updates? Eh, okay. Maybe for 2 to 3 years. Oh, your $999 Android phone is 2 years old? So sorry, but we no longer support that phone. Let me sell you this shiny, new phone for $1,299. We promise you'll get at least one OS upgrade. Eventually.
I know iPhones aren't perfect, but most of my complaints above are answered by Apple. There is consistency across all models, there's excellent syncing between products (e.g., iPhone, iPad & Apple Watch), you'll get timely updates for at least 5 years, and they stand behind their products.
I'll be sporting an iPhone 12 by the end of this year.